Thursday, May 8, 2008

Are You Resistant or Resilient?

Category of Industrial Organization
By: Ubaydillah, AN
Jakarta, 08.05.2008

What difference?
In literature, indeed often we find differences in meaning and connotation of the second term, despite frequent use to the same case. But sometimes, the same meanings and connotations in everyday use, especially for goods. Electronic goods that are resistant to that same understanding to the soul resilient (durable, anti-rust, strong, and so on).

Resistance term used science to the human spirit is to resist the pressure (force) from the outside with a motive to fight (overtly or silently) or to defend egoism. The aim is to resist change for the better. Resistant, therefore, a negative connotation, just like strong ambition, insistent, and so on.

For example we took the advice, counsel, or correction from others to make changes. By common sense, we know that the advice that makes sense and it’s good for us now or later. Plus we can do. But in practice, we still would not follow that advice or reject it on the grounds that the correction is very strong odor of his egoism (self-defense). More resistant to love lust (desires excessive subjectivity) rather than common sense, science advice, or experience.


While resilience is to defend itself from external pressures that could destroy the soul of defense. The motive was not to defend egoism, but to maintain the heart call (vision, goals, targets, or other positive ideas). What goal? The aim is that we can still change into a better direction in the midst of continuous pressure. Resilient, therefore, a positive connotation, just as tough, courageous, patient, and so on.

Suppose we have an idea to improve the lot. We set targets and plans. Yet, when we run, trials and obstacles are many. Many people in the way, many coming crush, and a lot of bad surprises that arise. Even so, we still fight for the idea to materialize. We have more common sense and obey the suggestions of conscience rather than follow the vain desires.

Both resilient or resistant, they are often used to describe the attitude model of a person against the recommendation, solicitation, or need to change for the better. As we all know, any time we have a need for change. The need was there that comes from Must (state or another person) and there is the advent of consciousness (personal initiative). That then there are people who are resistant or resilient, it’s basically back to choice.

“The way to become resistant to it are usually small,
but it means to be a resilient lot. “

Resilient and Resistant In Changes
What causes someone to be resilient? If we see the practice in the field, people become resilient because the stability of the soul (faith) and clarity. Basically can be, among other things, knowledge, experience, values, or mental quality. The more accurate knowledge of what a person wants to do, usually the more “confident” that he is. confident (Confidence) is the capital to be resilient.

Same also with clarity of mind in reading the targets or results will we achieve from our efforts. A businessman whose mind could read the next day with a clear map (based on the knowledge and experience), are generally more robust or resilient in the field. If you read the definition Rutter (1987), Resilient is related to mentality. Resilient is the positive pole of individual differences in responding to stress or suffering. Characteristics according to Fox (1995), among others:

1. They chose the decision to move forward, not stop or rewind
2. They could absorb the positive lessons behind the chaos
3. They can select materials that step by step (selective learner).
4. They think in terms of opportunity, ability, possibility and away from thoughts of limitation, lack, or incapacity
5. They have the incentive to produce the unique differences
6. They bring a lot of alternatives and options to be able to arrive at the intended target
7. They have a strong conviction that he is able to achieve what is desired

And what about people who are resistant? In Psychotherapy (Van Denburg & Kiesler, 2002), this resistance is divided into two. Resistance because there are people who under certain circumstances (temporary) and there were people who were due to innate resistance (already a long-borne nature). About why, surely this much. If you look to the practice, people become more resistant to change because of several things, among others:

1. Fear
2. Pain less
3. Super taste

In many organizations, people become resistant to the issue of change is often because they feel afraid later on wet land lost, prestige dropped, or lost his power. There is also a fact that he never had the skills, opportunities, and knowledge (inferior). Some even feel full because of work experience. As we all know, the experience has not always become a teacher. The experience could even be a shackle.

If we had a great experience, but instead make us into people who are resistant asked to change into a better direction or have felt no need to change into a better direction, or even become increasingly closed to new ideas, it may be a shackle us is that experience . Experience will only be a teacher if we use them to change into a better direction.

“Obstacles in the change is often
not about change is good or bad,
but who Idea “

Mental blockades
Of note some experts, such as Yup, and others, we find some thoughts that might be called “barriers to self-change”, the mental barriers that hinder progress or change someone. This is when we choose the resistance to defend it or do not have the resilience to fight it (gradually or all at once). Some mental impediments, among others:

1. Moral justification
Moral justification here means is that we use moral reasons to justify the violation of moral or moral violations by carelessly letting morals. For example we are stealing or doing the arbitrariness to defend the oppressed, to sustain life, or for the costs to continue studying.

Indeed, in very specific cases, have its own law. Therefore, the religious law itself is no room for people who “forced” by a very stringent requirements. for example just for survival and should only be used with sufficient levels, and we try to liberate ourselves from the compulsion that (not enjoy).

That is, if we continue (resistant) believed many moral reasons to justify a moral offense that we do, then our moral scale is not going up. We failed to become resilient people who fight for our ideas to become a better person. A teacher who continues to use violence with an excuse to educate students (resistant to various inputs), it would be difficult to change his method of teaching. This resistance thwarted the teachers to be teacher-rich method.

2. Wrapping weakness.
Wrapping weakness here means we use the weakness to not fix the weaknesses. For example we concluded that less than optimal work because work is not in accordance with the educational background and experience. We do not develop themselves because they do not have a complete facility that we want. And so on and so forth.

Indeed, if we get the job done with no reference to previous experiences and knowledge, this is difficult. But if these reasons that keep us believe, until we can not accept other inputs (resistant), we will fail to transform ourselves and change our performance. In fact, many proven examples of people who still can change himself, although given the task irrelevant. Already many examples of people who can still grow despite poor facilities initially.

3. Comparing the goodness of yourself
We compare some of the good advantages we have as a reason for not changed for the better. We are always taking samples from people who are worse, further down, or more negative than us. All this we do with the motive to reinforce the reasons that we have not time to change into a better direction because there are many people worse than us.

In some cases, could be the reason we had sufficient reason. But, if we always generalization this for all cases, we fail to finally become a resilient person to change for the better. In fact, it may be our opportunity to change when it was wide open.

4. Denying responsibility, rejected the consequences, or pointing outward.
According to the legal world, which makes our lives is definitely not, misery, suffering and loss, it’s not ourselves alone. There is a specific act of another person and act outside the external circumstances. Therefore, Benjamin Franklin wrote that if there was a woman who is beautiful, good, and good institute, but get the husband to the contrary, she was miserable and not by her but by her husband.

Although there because that comes from other people and circumstances, but to cause the improvement can only come from ourselves. That is, if we always assert that it must improve ourselves it is other people or circumstances, then we will fail forever be changed into a better direction. Why? Self-improvement is our responsibility, or the consequences of living in this world.

5. Placing himself as a victim (victim)
I often see the investigative report that aired several television stations around the life of the (sorry) PSK. Ejected from a number of answers, not least the wake of weak self-concept or have a mental conception of themselves as helpless victims. For example, betrayed by steady, framed by masher, hurt, and others. Of course, economic reasons are still the favorite.

Maybe just in practice these people really and truly the victim helpless. Life is always kept a mystery. Only, if we are always fun to position ourselves as victims or good mentality weak, then we will fail forever change us into something better. Some farmers are always positioned himself as the victim of government policy, farmers will be very difficult to be creative (though the government may also be wrong.) Some employees who always put himself as the victim of tyranny management, it would be difficult to employees who are resilient (although management may be wrong, too.)

“Mental barriers to change is
allow the emergence of a mentality of “I – yes – but”

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